Welcome To Tenea’s World

Hello and Welcome to Tenea’s World:

I am new to blogging but have been writing since I was nine years old.  I started with poetry and short stories.  I am currently working on my first novel.  I intend to share my work here along with my thoughts and opinions.  I look forward to your responses as well.

Now, for today I saw an interesting topic on another blog: “What if the woman proposes?”

I want to begin by saying that I am all for anyone going after what they want.  Proposing is inclusive in that and if it works for you than I wish you well.  But, for me this could not be.  I am, in most respects, a very modern, liberal and free-thinking woman.  However, in some things I am very traditional and being proposed to is one of these areas.  Before I explain I want to state that I am aware of the irony in my conflicting viewpoints but we will chalk it up to woman’s perogative.

But you have to know yourself and the person you love.  My man is so old school he is almost a throwback to times way before his birth.  He doesn’t really like to go out.  When we do go out I generally have had to decide where we are going etc.  He doesn’t like talking on the phone.  He has the strong, silent male thing down pat.  Has never given me a gift without soliciting suggestions from me. Yet, he has very definite views on what things he considers the man’s role.  He is very much the traditional protector/provider type of man.  So, he may avoid certain things in our day-to-day living but when he does express himself it is in a deeply touching almost soul stirring way.

That is the type of proposal I have always dreamed of RECEIVING.  I believe, as does he, that proposing is definitely one of those times when he is on his own for choosing my ring and how he proposes.  Because the words, the ring, the place are his choices for me.  They are him showing me his heart.  For him looking into my eyes and seeing the love, need and desire for him as I promise to spend my life with him – this is showing him my heart.

So, maybe it’s that simple knowing yourself, knowing the person you love and knowing what works for you both…….  What do you think?

Peace